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[ffiondove_20]

My daughter-in-law was taken to hospital today with severe tummy pains, a very sore throat, fever/chills, very sore skin - I have been up to see her and she is quite poorly, I don't think she is looking after herself since she and my son split up 2 months ago and she told me today she has been drinking, not every day but she has had a few binges worryingly whilst alone. We have not always seen eye to eye but my heart goes out to her and I feel quite at a loss what I can do but I MUST do something - anything to help, obviously I already have the children whenever she needs me to but there must be more I can do to help her to cope when she get out of hospital - at the moment she is undergoing various tests so we'll have to wait and see whats wrong with her - my son is useless and I'm ashamed of him..... I just told him so.

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[bellemelange.livejournal.com]

She's going through a hard time... *sending hugs*

[ffiondove.livejournal.com]

She certainly is - thanx

[stormy-sue.livejournal.com]

Oh, dear; I hope it's nothing too serious. She's probably run down from all the stress recently, and that just leaves the body wide open for any nasty bug that comes along. And the drinking binges certainly don't help. I hope they don't become a regular habit.

You're such a great mother-in-law! So caring and willing to help. I hope your daughter-in-law realises how lucky she is.

What is your son doing through this?

[ffiondove.livejournal.com]

My son is not doing very much...he picked the kids up from school yesterday and brought them to me and then he went to see Kelly in hospital after that he had to work, he seems a bit cold and empty at the moment but I suppose he has his own feelings to deal with.

[msb66.livejournal.com]

Sorry to hear of this ffiondove. Does she have her own family nearby? Make sure she lets you do some stuff to ease her load when she is fit. Healing thoughts.

[ffiondove.livejournal.com]

Yes her mother and her husband live closer to her than I do but her mother works full-time, also they are a strange sort of family, her mother acts more like a friend than a mother, I don't like her very much we have had some bad problems with them over the years, but we must all rally now and get Kelly sorted out.

[sambora.livejournal.com]

your such a caring person i am sure she appreciates it, it is worrying though if she is admitting to drinking and she has the main care of the children its something that needs to be watched she needs to be strong for the children,*big hugs to you*

[ffiondove.livejournal.com]

The drinking is something I will be talking to her about - thanks for the hugs babe ;)

[momsalive1]

**hugs**

You are doing alot for her - she knows the kids still have their Grandma to count on. Just hanging in there with her is about all you can do, but it is crucial that someone who cares for the kids also cares for her.

Don't forget to take good care of yourself, too, I'm sure this has been very hard on you.

***more hugs***

[ffiondove.livejournal.com]

Many grateful thanks for the hugs...its amazing how these things come at you from nowhere all in a day...of course for Kelly it has been building up for weeks, I think she realises Francesco is not going back to her and she has to start from there and move forward, easy for me to say, but I will give her as much support as I can.

[tanuja.livejournal.com]

Hugs for you all. It's a tough situation all around. I wonder if your son's worried about getting dragged back into a relationship with his ex and is trying to be detached.

As everyone else in your comments have said, look after yourself too, you seem to be the rock that is holding everything together.

[ffiondove.livejournal.com]

I will look after myself, I know thats important but I'm trying to be all things to all people at the moment and its only the 2nd day, I still have my 16 year old going through his GCSEs this year and needs keeping an eye on......but I will try not to spread myself too thinly. Yes my son is trying to be detached for that reason but he has to get the balance right.

[tanuja.livejournal.com]

Good luck to all of you (and especially the son with the GCSE's to take, external exams arre a painful experience.